男主角太丑了，没说的！！>_< that's the honest part...
Fraud said: "the fear of intimacy – the chronic and overpowering feeling
that emotional closeness will seriously hurt or destroy us and that we
can remain emotionally safe only remaining at an emotional distance from
others at all times."
When Harry met Sally, they believed there exist friendship between men and women，but finally they still fell in love with each other and got married，wow....I would like to say it's really confused me...I mean, I love happy ending but I still cast some doubt on their marriage, is it really for love? Or just for having been used to get along with this guy and can not lead the life without him (or her)?
At the first time when Harry met Sally, he said: Men and women can never really be friends, because "the sex always gets in way", and Sally's response was totally opposite. They are in different worlds, different attitude toward life and love.
When they met again after 5 years, Harry was going to marry with Helen, and Sally was just in a new relationship with Joe. And Harry asked Sally to be his friend, the reason is that they already have partners and they will not fall in love with each other. But Sally refused.
Maybe their fates are joked by God, they met in 5 years again. In that time, Sally just broke up with Joe, while Harry was divorced with Helen. Without these tragedies happened to them, I think they can't be best friend forever. They came to understand each other and got to know what men and women really want and think.
Since then, they can do everything with each other except having sex, this kind of safe relationship enable them to release themselves without fear of abandonment, which makes them feel relaxed and comfortable. Their unconsciousness，especially for two souls who just had a badly emotional experiences，avoided them to involve in a meaningful relationship, they thought they would never get hurt.
But something they feared most still happened in an irrational state. After having sex, everything become wired, seems that the relationship between them should have a new definition. Once a relationship was given meaning and obligation, people will be anxious and loose sense of safety. This is the fact that many people are always unwilling to face.
I saw many couples are not happy when they married, but why we still think it necessary to marry with someone in a proper time? Why we appreciate some kind of stories like “To hold your hand, to grow old with you执子之手与子偕老”? Why?
People claimed that: Because we love each other!!
There is a great deal of truth of that, yet If a man and a woman fall in love, they don't need to marry, they can choose to be lovers forever, I think. The truth I believed is that no one can avoid the fear of loneliness during their whole life. People married just want to guarentee their life and need a home for soul.
Sally and Harry married at last, become couples from friends. They don’t need to experience the period of adjustment, which includes conflicts、distrust and misunderstand，as other couple experienced.
Maybe this is the ideal of marriage：Marry with someone who knows your defects but still loves you and never abandons you…
And if today someone ask me whether men and women can be really friends or not, I would definitely say yes. We believe in god, we believe the existence of alien, so why can't we believe this wonderful thing in this world? Haha!! Nothing is impossible!!
Marie: All I'm saying is that somewhere out there is the man you are supposed to marry. And if you don't get him first, somebody else will, and you'll have to spend the rest of your life knowing that somebody else is married to your husband
Sally Albright: You know, I'm so glad I never got involved with you. I just would have ended up being some woman you had to get up out of bed and leave at 3:00 in the morning and go clean your andirons, and you dont even have a fireplace, not that I would know this.
只不过是两个对爱情都不抱啥坚定信仰的家伙在情场厮杀若干年之后，对于纯洁神圣的爱情这东西追逐不成，于是转而达成了一致鄙弃的态度，正好都身心俱疲退下阵来，正好又彼此还在身边，于是同是天涯沦落人，惺惺相吸，一拍即合罢了吧~>.< （唉，觉得俺自己好邪恶啊……把人家阴险的小内心揭露得如此之赤果果。~xixixi *^_^*）
Sally: Amanda mentioned you had a dark side.
Harry: That's what drew her to me.
Sally: Your dark side?
Harry: Sure. Why? Don't you have a dark side? I know, you're probably one of those cheerful people
who dot their "i's" with little hearts.
Sally: I have just as much of a dark side as the next person.
Harry: Oh, really? When I buy a new book, I read the last page first. That way, in case I die before I finish, I know how it ends. That, my friend, is a dark side.
郑重声明：本人对于这俩主人公对待爱情的不严肃态度严重鄙视！Why not try to get yourself devoted into a serious and precious love and contribute together to achieve the eternity ??? There's no any reason to be undetermined or even have any bit of doubt when you're truely in a relationship. I hate the plot that Harry and Sally will always jump in each other's life while they themselves are involved in their respective relationship!!! It makes the relation between Harry and Sally look like the most eye-catching and essential one of the whole story. No, it should not be like this. If you're Sally, you should think about it seriously and make a responsible and valuable decision to start with the specific one that you have chosen! But not to always show doubt or sense of uncertainty in your beautiful eyes when you're getting close to your Harry! You think Harry is the final glowing one who has remained after all these fake and imperfect love experiences? Nope, you're totally wrong. He is just the the one who happened to remain there because he himself has got tired of his unfaithful relationships.!!!
Harry Burns:I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
Sally 和 Harry 到最后真的相爱了吗？杵在各自身边12年，最后终于觉醒并顺从了自己的true heart? 大概也许可能应该未必吧。
Harry: How about, 'You love me too'?
Harry: You know how a year to a person is like seven years to a dog?
Sally: Is one of us supposed to be a DOG in this scenario?
Sally: Who is the dog?
Harry: You are.
Sally: I am? I am the dog? I am the dog?
When Harry met Sally, they just take each other as their back-ups. When Harry and Sally all failed in their love journey, they finally got something in common. That is the true reason why they got together after all these. It can not be called "love". It is just, whatever people say, life.
Sally: How about, 'I'm leaving.'
Harry: Had my dream again where I'm making love, and the Olympic judges are watching. I'd nailed the compulsaries, so this is it, the finals. I got a 9.8 from the Canadians, a perfect 10 from the Americans, and my mother, disguised as an East German judge, gave me a 5.6. Must have been the dismount.
Marie: The point is, he just spent $120 on a new nightgown for his wife.
I don't think he's ever gonna leave her.
Sally: No one thinks he's ever gonna leave her.
Marie: You're right, you're right, I know you're right.
Harry Burns: You take someone to the airport, its clearly the beginning
of the relationship. Thats why I have never taken anyone to the airport
at the beginning of a relationship.
Sally Albright: Why?
Harry Burns: Because eventually things move on and you dont take someone to the airport and I never wanted anyone to say to me, How come you never take me to the airport anymore?
Sally Albright: Its amazing. You look like a normal person but actually you are the angel of death.
Sally: I'm sorry Harry, I know it's New Year's Eve, I know you're feeling lonely, but you can't just show up here, tell me you love me and expect everything to be all right. It doesn't work that way.
Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not!
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry: I guess not.
Sally: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.
Should you take your significant other to the airport?
Harry: You know, I have a theory that heirogliphics are just an ancient comic strip about a character named Sphinxy.
High maintenance and low maintenance, take two
Harry Burns: And was it worth it? The sacrifice for a friend you dont
even keep in touch with?
Sally Albright: Harry, you might not believe this, but I never considered not sleeping with you a sacrifice.
Harry: Well how about this way. I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out, I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich, I love when you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts, I love that after I've spent the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to begin as soon as possible.
Harry: Doesn't what I've said mean anything to you?
Harry: Would you like to have dinner? ...Just friends.
Sally: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends.
Harry: When did I say that?
Sally: On the ride to New York.
Harry: No, no, no, I never said that. ...Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are
involved with other people, then they can. ...This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted. ...That doesn't work either, because what happens then is, the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do
you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends.
Harry: Right now everything is great, everyone is happy, everyone is in
love and that is wonderful! But you gotta know that sooner or later
you're gonna be screaming at each other about who's gonna get this dish.
This eight dollar dish will cost you a thousand dollars in phone calls
to the legal firm of That's Mine, This Is Yours.
Harry: Please, Jess, Marie. Do me a favor, for your own good, put your name in your books right now before they get mixed up and you won't know whose is whose. 'Cause someday, believe it or not, you'll go 15 rounds over who's gonna get this coffee table. This stupid, wagon wheel, Roy Rogers, garage sale COFFEE TABLE!
Jess: I thought you liked it!?
Harry: I was being nice!
Dating a married man：
“I love you”：
Sally: You see? That is just like you, Harry. You say things like that, and you make it impossible for me to hate you!
Basic nightmare date of your ex：
Harry: Well how does it work?
[Harry and Sally discussing orgasms]
Sally Albright: Most women at one time or another have faked it.
Harry Burns: Well, they haven't faked it with me.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because I know.
Sally Albright: Oh. Right. Thats right. I forgot. You're a man.
Harry Burns: What was that supposed to mean?
Sally Albright: Nothing. Its just that all men are sure it never happened to them and all women at one
time or other have done it so you do the math.
Sally: Is Harry bringing anybody to the wedding?
Marie: I don't think so.
Sally: Is he seeing anybody?
Marie: He was seeing this anthropologist, but...
Sally: What's she look like?
Marie: Thin. Pretty. Big tits. Your basic nightmare.
Harry Burns: The fact that you're not answering leads me to believe that (a) You're not home, (b) You're home but you don't want to talk to me, or (c) You're home, desperately want to talk to me, but you're trapped under something heavy. If it's either (a) or (c), please give me a call.
Sally: I'd like the chef salad please with oil and vinegar on the side,
and the apple pie a la mode.
Waitress: Chef and apple a la mode.
Sally: But I'd like the pie heated, and I don't want the ice cream on top. I want it on the side, and I'd like strawberry instead of vanilla if you have it. If not, then no ice cream, just whipped cream, but only if it's real. If it's out of the can, then nothing.
Waitress: Not even the pie?
Sally: No, just the pie, but then not heated.
Rest of your life：
Sally: How do you expect me to respond to this?
High maintenance and low maintenance：
Jess: You made a woman meow?
Harry:I've been doing a lot of thinking, and the thing is, I love you.
Sally: Well, if you must know, it was because he was very jealous, and I
had these days of the week
Harry: Ehhhh! I'm sorry. I need the judges ruling on this. "Days of the weeks underpants"?
Sally: Yes. They had the days of the week on them, and I thought they were sort of funny. And then one
day Sheldon says to me, "You never wear Sunday." It was all suspicious. Where was Sunday? Where
had I left Sunday? And I told him, and he didn't believe me.
Sally: They don't make Sunday.
Harry: Why not?
Sally: Because of God.
Getting Back Together：
Harry: I love you.
Harry: Shel? Sheldon? No. You did not have great sex with Sheldon.
Sally: I did too.
Harry: No. A Sheldon can do your income taxes. If you need a root canal, Sheldon's your man. But humping and pumping are not Sheldon's strong suits. It's the name. Do it to me, Sheldon. You're an animal, Sheldon. Ride me, big Sheldon. It doesn't work.
Sally: I don't know, but not this way. (Walking away)
Harry Burns: There are two kinds of women: high maintenance and low
Sally Albright: Which one am I?
Harry Burns:You're the worst kind. You're high maintenance but you think you're low maintenance.
Can women and men be friends? Take Two
Men and Women Can Never Be Friends：